Why People Don’t Know What They Want !!!!

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Here are the main reasons why most people – and possibly you – aren’t clear on what you want, and therefore rarely get what you want.

  • You’ve never thought about it because you experience life as a bystander or a victim – life happens ‘to’ you
  • You don’t think it’s possible for you to have it anyway so what’s the point in thinking about it
  • You think that your dreams are too big to happen and you should just keep your head down, be more realistic and just get on with things
  • You think it’s selfish, bad or wrong to want something good for yourself
  • You don’t know HOW it could happen so you give up before you’ve even started
  • You are afraid to get excited about something and then end up being disappointed if it doesn’t happen so you live in a perpetual state of disappointment instead
  • You don’t think you deserve it
  • You don’t love yourself enough to think that it’s OK for you to have it
  • You think that we live in a limited universe where there simply isn’t enough for everybody, so it’s responsible (or even spiritual) to go without
  • You buy into the limitations of those around you, and the media, e.g.
  • “It’s recession and people don’t have money”
  • “That’ll never work because … “
  • “It’s not that easy, because…”
  • Remember that often the people who shoot down your ideas are frustrated themselves that they’ve not been able to create their dreams and may have given up on their own dreams!
  • You are afraid of failing, or getting it wrong, or looking like a fool, or being ridiculed, or laughed at. Yes ladies and gentlemen, we here have the classic “What if?”
  • “What if I fail?”
  • “What if people think I’m stupid?”
  • “What if I get rejected?”
  • “What if […fill in the blank….]?”
  • The classic ‘if/then’ scenario, where you are waiting for things to be perfect
  • “If I have more time, then I’ll do it…”
  • “If I have more money, then I’ll do it…”
  • “If the economy picks up, then …”
  • “If I get that new job, [car, partner, …fill in the blank…] then …”
  • Usually, of course, ‘then’ never comes.
  • The classic ‘YES/BUT’ argument, guaranteed to kill any dream:
  • “Yes but I don’t know enough!”
  • “Yes but I don’t have enough time!”
  • “Yes but I don’t have the right qualification, or enough experience!”

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